Your article makes good point. But perhaps it makes such a good point of making the point it makes, that it misses this point it’s OK to not be completely whole before you partner with someone. Partnering with someone while you are still working on finding your own happiness and being your own best friend, is a way to help you find out how to be your own best friend, better. I have experienced this firsthand. I am 48 years old. When I was with someone for six years, it helped me find myself. Being seen, having a witness, is a big part of life and growth. But, when you are single as I have been for four years, no matter how hard i work on loving
yourself or keeping my interests alive. it becomes a real trial, if you don’t have someone who sees you consistently, to keep living your best life or being your best self. Of course I have family and friends, but most of them are partnered and caught up in their own lives. when I do see them, it’s like we’re playing catch-up. Even if I share with them authentically and Deeply, they have their own lives and partners to go home too. Here’s my point. It helps me to have someone alongside me, while inhabiting my self-propelling, selfl-oving mindset, that you you promote in this article.

You are right, any committed partnership can be fucking hard, and it can be easy to lose yourself in it, but it can also be sensationally rewarding and supportive, and provide an environment where one can be seen, and flourish.

I want that